Self compassion practices

https://self-compassion.org/exercises/exercise-2-self-compassion-break/

Dr  Neff defines self-compassion as having three elements: mindfulness,  common humanity and self-kindness.  Self-compassion means treating  ourselves (and talking to ourselves) as kindly as we would treat (and  talk to) a friend.  

You can take a self-compassion break anytime, anywhere.  All you need is a couple of minutes.    

Think  of a situation in your life that is difficult, that is causing you  stress.  Call the situation to mind, and see if you can actually feel  the stress and emotional discomfort in your body.

Now, say to yourself:

1. This is a moment of suffering

That’s mindfulness. Other options include:

    • This hurts. 

    • Ouch. 

    • This is stress. 

2. Suffering is a part of life

That’s common humanity. Other options include:

    • Other people feel this way. 

    • I’m not alone. 

    • We all struggle in our lives. 

Now,  put your hands over your heart, feel the warmth of your hands and the  gentle touch of your hands on your chest. Or adopt the soothing touch  you discovered felt right for you.

3. May I be kind to myself

You  can also ask yourself, “What do I need to hear right now to express  kindness to myself?” Is there a phrase that speaks to you in your  particular situation, such as:

    • May I give myself the compassion that I need 

    • May I learn to accept myself as I am 

    • May I forgive myself 

    • May I be strong 

    • May I be patient